From Boys to Men: How a Slew of Guys Confirmed 7 Secrets was Worth Writing

If I had to sum up the whirlwind that was last week, I’d have to say it was “Man-tastic!” 😃

Last week I had the privilege of participating in four separate events. Each one presented the opportunity to share 7 Secrets with guys of ALL ages, and boy did they get it!

It all started last Tuesday when I was joined by my friend and former teaching partner, Michael Calloway, in hosting a FREE post-Father’s Day webinar, The Daddy-Daughter Dynamic: How Engaged Fathers Lead to Empowered Daughters.

Let me tell you, if you didn’t sign-up for this free online training, you missed a treat!

Michael and I shared life-affirming information, including material from Chapter 6 of 7 Secrets, with almost 100 caring fathers and mothers of teen girls. In just over an hour, we provided them with 8 actionable tips to empower their daughters to avoid or ditch “daddy issues” and become healthy, confident, and successful young ladies who know their worth in and outside of a relationship.

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The Issue of Faith: Why it Matters and How NOT to Apply It When Having “The Talk”


A latin mature father sitting and reading the Bible to his family outdoors in a medium shot.

In honor of this Easter weekend, I thought it fitting to tackle the role faith plays in teen girls’ decision-making when it comes to sex.

From the time we were born, we were taught to chase the momentary satisfaction. We were taught to find the largest high to fulfill our greatest lows and for me, that was sex. I gained my ultimate satisfaction from the opinion of man. It wasn’t until I discovered that a righteous, pure, just man died for me, that I found my true value and worth, Jesus Christ. Now I no longer have to chase the momentary satisfaction because I’ve found a permanent one. ~High School Junior

The truth is, religious beliefs are a very strong reason why some teen girls (and guys) abstain.

According to the National Survey of Family Growth, more than half of teen girls—57 percent—said that they had never had sex, and nearly one-half of these young women said that the main reason they had abstained from sex was that it was against their religion or morals. 1

And I have received numerous letters from girls that confirm this survey’s results.

If I wasn’t already sold on being sexually abstinent because of religious and emotional reasons, I surely am now. ~High School Sophomore

I am a Christian girl and my biggest fear isn’t STD’s or the emotional distress, etc. It’s the fact that my God would be disappointed in me. I am not trying to say that I would have sex if I didn’t know my God but I’m saying why don’t you explain to people that you can find love through something else that’s not a person or material things. ~High School Freshman

As a Christian myself, I understand why Christian parents would approach their “Talk” from a biblical perspective. And I think that’s great!

But time and again I see teens reject their parents’ teachings.

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What an iPhone Software Update Taught Me about My Walk with God!

Apple Iphone software updateAbout six months ago, my FaceTime app stopped working on my iPhone. Since I don't use the app often, it wasn’t a big deal…at least not a big enough deal for me to spend time trying to get it fixed.

A few months later my Maps app also stopped working. This was a bigger problem since my travels take me throughout the state speaking.

I made an appointment with the Genius Bar at the Apple store so they could diagnose the problem and repair the phone. Without even touching my phone, the associate told me the problem would resolve itself if I downloaded the latest software update.

When I returned home and attempted to download the update, I couldn’t do so because I did not have enough storage on my phone. I would have to delete apps/files before it would be possible to download the latest update. As is rather common for me, I procrastinated and found what was an easier fix for me. I began printing out directions to my speaking engagement locations from my computer.

Fast-forward a couple of months and my phone stopped ringing. I could call people, but I couldn’t tell when someone was calling me. Now, this was a big enough problem to catapult even the biggest procrastinator into action.

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