It Takes Two to Tango: Why Educating Your Daughter is Only Half the Battle

When schools request that I come do an assembly, I’m often invited to only speak to the girls. I then counter by strongly suggesting that I speak to both the girls and guys. Why? Because educating girls about love, sex, … [Continue reading]

The Issue of Faith: Why it Matters and How NOT to Apply It When Having “The Talk”

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In honor of this Easter weekend, I thought it fitting to tackle the role faith plays in teen girls’ decision-making when it comes to sex. From the time we were born, we were taught to chase the momentary satisfaction. We were taught … [Continue reading]

Back to the Basics: Why Sexual Assault Prevention Begins with Consent

"It took me listening to you for me to realize that I’ve been raped twice." WOW! It boggles my mind that any young lady wouldn’t recognize when she’s being raped. Why is that? Is it because girls are so … [Continue reading]

Prom Proposition: How to Save Your Daughter from Making an Offer Her Date May or May Not Refuse

It’s that time of year again when girls are on the hunt for that showstopper dress and matching shoes, the perfect hairstyle to accentuate their best features and a flawless make-up application to tie it all together.   Apart from … [Continue reading]

Battle of the Sexes: Why it’s Easier to Talk Teen Boys Out of Having Sex than it is Girls…

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When I started speaking to teens about sex 15 years ago, I only spoke to 8th grade girls for about three years. When the opportunity to speak to high school students presented itself, I must admit, I was rather nervous. It’s one thing … [Continue reading]

Keeping Secrets: 3 Reasons Why Your Daughter Doesn’t Confide in You and What You Can Do About It

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Teen girls, who could easily be your daughter, confide in me secrets that they don’t share with their moms. I know this to be true because of what they’ve told me. I wake up and ask myself every day, ‘Why did you … [Continue reading]

An Open Letter to the Mom Who Bought Tickets for Her 13-Year-Old Daughter and Her Friends to Watch Fifty Shades of Grey

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This month marks the two-year anniversary of the premiere of the movie, Fifty Shades of Grey. And if the first movie wasn’t graphic enough for you, the sequel that premiered this month, Fifty Shades Darker, should do the trick. That is, if … [Continue reading]

What’s Love Got to Do with It? How to Help Your Daughter Make Valentine’s Day “Special” Without Sex

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This time every year, teens (like adults), gear up to celebrate Valentine’s Day with the person they love. They buy cards, chocolate, teddy bears, balloons and flowers. They plan a romantic evening that may include dinner and a movie, and yes, … [Continue reading]

Your Daughter is Listening, Whether You Believe it or Not!

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I’ve always been confused on what I want with my body. I’ve grown up around family who tells me, “You’re going to have sex. You’re going to drink and go to parties,” as if I couldn’t avoid doing it. The … [Continue reading]

Why are Teens Really Having Sex? It’s Not What You May Think!

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I believe students find my presentation to be so effective because I don’t use the fear of contracting STD’s or getting pregnant to persuade them not to have sex. While the “scared straight” approach may work at convincing … [Continue reading]