Love-Ed vs. Sex-Ed

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I think we miss the boat when we spend so much time talking to teens about sex when the better conversation is one about “love!”

When a young lady tells me she has sex in order to show her boyfriend how much she loves him (which is one reason high school girls give me for having sex), I immediately think that she needs a lesson in “Love-Ed” –a term coined by another student. And my response to her is:

What are you going to do to show yourself how much you love YOU?  You have to love yourself first before you can really love anyone else.

When you love YOU, you don’t make decisions that could jeopardize your chances of reaching your dreams and goals.  When you really love others, you don't let them make decisions that are harmful for them either.

What is more important than showing your boyfriend how much you love him is showing yourself and others how much you love and respect YOU!

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Protecting Your Child from Sexual Assault

saam_logo-generalenglish_2On May 1st, I will begin my blog series “Teens Tell All: Top 20 Reasons why Teens DO and DON’T Have Sex,” in support of Teen Pregnancy Prevention Month.

However, I decided to address one of those reasons this week since April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month. 

Since beginning this work, I have been blown away by the large number of girls who reveal in their anonymous letters that they have been raped or molested.

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Protecting Innocence or Promoting Ignorance?

 

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There are times when I speak to 8th grade students and am really torn about how much information to share because the experiences of the students are SO extreme.

High school students say they love that I “keep it real” and don’t sugarcoat anything. That is a little more difficult for me to do when I am in 8th grade classes because some of the girls are so innocent that I almost cringe when the more experienced girls ask very explicit questions or make vulgar comments.

This is an example of the type of innocence I sometimes encounter:

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An Angel with a crooked halo

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If you read my very first blog post, you may recall me stating that this blog is my attempt to sound the alarm and let adults know how much this generation of youth NEEDS us!

The letter below should provide proof of that need:

 

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How do children spell “LOVE?”

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